Life is a puzzle
Lives in London
, Blogger at Life Is An Episode
Not everyone we lose is our loss. Throughout this beautiful journey of life, we tend to meet a lot of people and not all of them are meant to be a part of our future and stay with us forever. Some leave and some stay therefore, if someone walks out of tour life then it is not really a loss. It’s a well learnt lesson for the future. Moreover we realize with time that the little emptiness and gaps left by the people we once loved dearly, sometimes get filled by better people.
I used to be a naive and painfully sweet girl coming from a humble Irish background, someone who believed in the fairytale romance, the supposed ‘Prince charming’ and in ‘Happily ever after’. Someone who was far and untouched by the bitter realities of life, whose life revolved around my parents, family, a few friends and a physically distant fiancé who lived in a far off land; the kind of girl anxious and desperate to get married and thrilled to go on a honeymoon because she can’t wait to have her ‘happily ever after’.
My fiancé, who by the way proved to be a douchebag, dumped my a couple of days before our wedding because he believed that I wasn’t exactly ‘his’ type and that we are poles apart. It was the moment I felt I had to do something with my life. Decided and took the plunge to set off on my honeymoon all alone. With a broken heart and tears in the eyes, I collected the broken pieces of my lost self and took off on the journey of happiness and self discovery.
I reached the city of love Paris, where I had a bumpy ride in the beginning but soon I succumbed to the beauty and charm of this city and let myself loose to smile and laugh while trying to be familiar with the brand new world I've gotten into. And this is where I met the most interesting characters of my life. I met another Irish girl Natalie who happens to be a single mom and works at a hotel to raise her son. I learned a lot about life, hardships and struggle from her, but amidst all that I learned how to be content and happy.
From there I took off to Amsterdam, where amidst the sheer foreignness and unnerving novelty, I met the best people of my life. A sexy bar dancer Isabelle with her coquettish accent, an over enthusiastic Japanese roommate, and the boho-chic looking Spaniard, all these silly yet wonderful people in some way taught me the real meaning of inner happiness and contentment and changed my life in some way or the other. On this journey I re-discovered myself and found out the ultimate secret of being happy in life.
I learned that no matter how ugly things are, they will pass. The solution is to not cry over it and take charge of your life like me. After all we never know what the future holds and surprises are in store.
Back home, I wasn't encouraged to mingle with strangers. My friends were usually from the school, college and colleagues. But when I traveled all alone and interacted with people from different cultures and background, it opened my mind. From being accompanied by family members everywhere to sharing the room with unknown people, I explored the different layers of relationships and found my true calling. The escapades from shopping, sight-seeing, meeting bar dancers, I shared a bond with these amazing people, for life.
Traveling was a brutality for me. It forced me to lose the comforts of my home, the sight of everyone familiar and to trust the strangers. I was constantly off balance. I figured that people are not really strangers, they are just friends who we have never met before.